Social Contract
Saturday, January 05, 2008
life goals
My life goals
I never like resolutions because they are really not effective.
Have you ever made ALL of your assignments on time?
Do you always spend your money wisely?
Can you lessen your dates from once a week to once a month?
It’s impossible to promise to stop doing the things you love to do. I happen to graduate from all sorts of promises and believe me it’s a heartbreaker. I remember a friend back in high school whose new year’s resolution is to stop having a crush his entire h.s. life (we were freshmen back then) but after a month he started hanging out with a girl who had a crush on him and had a girl friend the same year. If you think you are the “friend” I was talking about, don’t worry, there were many of you whom I heard that promise before and broke it.
As I was saying, I have no resolutions and short term goals but I decided to post my long term goals for the sake of my mom.
It happened one day when my mom was sewing khatie’s shirt (or blouse) when she started asking me about marriage. Woah! I know what you’re thinking and it’s a big word for a little girl like me, right? Well its like this, we were talking about my little brother who wants to be a pilot someday and since I’m her big sister, I’m responsible to make his dreams come true. I’m not complaining about it. So here it goes, I assured my mom that I’ll send my brother to college and she doesn’t need to worry about me getting married because I won’t think about that till I reach 35. She was shocked and told me that it is not advisable to marry at that age except for doctors. I made the excuse of “Daddy and Mamang (grandma) told me to marry at that age” excuse but she said they were just exaggerating because I was still young but now it quite different. I’m in college and my cousins were married right after they graduated from college. In short, my mom advised me to set my priorities as early as now and to at least think about getting married by the age of 25-28. (That’s about 7-10 years from now) She is not pushing me to think about that now but to prepare myself in that situation since I promised to take care of my little brother in the future. She is really worried about us because my older cousins married early and now give little attention to my younger cousins who are still not finished studying. I comforted her and swore that I will take care of my brother and I will set my priorities as early as now so that I would not forget anything.
This is my 10 year goal though some were already done but if you analyze it more carefully you can see a clear view of my plans in the future. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not being futuristic/materialistic here; these are the things a want to obtain now to have a brighter and happier future for me and for my family.
This is in no particular order. I’ll also state my reasons.
To have a Jansport bag in college
To have a laptop
To have a Polaroid camera
To receive a diploma after 3-4 years
To have a car
To pass the bar exam and be in a law firm
To have my own condo
To go on a road trip with my friends and travel abroad alone.
To be courted and be serenaded in front of the house just like in the province. (dreamy ,right?)
To be married to the man of my dreams.
So where’s the family there? They’re included in my first 8. Let me explain. Just last week my younger brother gave me the bag of my dreams. It was a dream come true since I haven’t owned a Jansport bag ever and I really feel sad every time I see a Jansport bag especially in grade school because my parents won’t let me buy for the reason that it might get stolen in school. I really felt happy when my lil bro saved enough money just to buy me one. He showed me that it is possible to save. I will treasure my bag forever because my bother sacrificed his lunch money just for me. It’s a reminder of how much he loves me with that simple act. I already have a laptop but this signifies my seriousness in my academics. I swear I will finish on time or earlier without any distractions. I do want a professional camera. It signifies my love for art. I want to graduate with a balanced life of academics and fun too! My diploma will be a proof of my hard work and dedication by concentrating in my studies. My mom gave her car to me just last month but I do want my own car, a car from my own money. This will signify that I have reached my dream because of studying hard. Passing the bar and being in a law firm will be the peak of my career. Reaching that stage will be the happiest moment of my academic life. I already have my own condo but I placed it here because apart from the condo I want to give my lil brother his own house and a vacation house for my parents too. Then after everything has been settled I would like to experience how it feels like to be an independent woman. After 1-2 years it would be the time of thinking of settling down. I would be 27-28 by that time. I based it in the novel “I Walk to Remember” and reflected about time. All this may look like corny and mushy at first but in the long run, these things may be significant. Time is too short, I rather spend every minute of it for the future and for my family. At least, I’m sure that I spent my time wisely and I won’t regret anything in my life. I did not indicate my plans after 10 years because it’s really hard to imagine about career, family and stuff at this age. Next time nalang.. After 20 years siguro..bye!!
I never like resolutions because they are really not effective.
Have you ever made ALL of your assignments on time?
Do you always spend your money wisely?
Can you lessen your dates from once a week to once a month?
It’s impossible to promise to stop doing the things you love to do. I happen to graduate from all sorts of promises and believe me it’s a heartbreaker. I remember a friend back in high school whose new year’s resolution is to stop having a crush his entire h.s. life (we were freshmen back then) but after a month he started hanging out with a girl who had a crush on him and had a girl friend the same year. If you think you are the “friend” I was talking about, don’t worry, there were many of you whom I heard that promise before and broke it.
As I was saying, I have no resolutions and short term goals but I decided to post my long term goals for the sake of my mom.
It happened one day when my mom was sewing khatie’s shirt (or blouse) when she started asking me about marriage. Woah! I know what you’re thinking and it’s a big word for a little girl like me, right? Well its like this, we were talking about my little brother who wants to be a pilot someday and since I’m her big sister, I’m responsible to make his dreams come true. I’m not complaining about it. So here it goes, I assured my mom that I’ll send my brother to college and she doesn’t need to worry about me getting married because I won’t think about that till I reach 35. She was shocked and told me that it is not advisable to marry at that age except for doctors. I made the excuse of “Daddy and Mamang (grandma) told me to marry at that age” excuse but she said they were just exaggerating because I was still young but now it quite different. I’m in college and my cousins were married right after they graduated from college. In short, my mom advised me to set my priorities as early as now and to at least think about getting married by the age of 25-28. (That’s about 7-10 years from now) She is not pushing me to think about that now but to prepare myself in that situation since I promised to take care of my little brother in the future. She is really worried about us because my older cousins married early and now give little attention to my younger cousins who are still not finished studying. I comforted her and swore that I will take care of my brother and I will set my priorities as early as now so that I would not forget anything.
This is my 10 year goal though some were already done but if you analyze it more carefully you can see a clear view of my plans in the future. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not being futuristic/materialistic here; these are the things a want to obtain now to have a brighter and happier future for me and for my family.
This is in no particular order. I’ll also state my reasons.
To have a Jansport bag in college
To have a laptop
To have a Polaroid camera
To receive a diploma after 3-4 years
To have a car
To pass the bar exam and be in a law firm
To have my own condo
To go on a road trip with my friends and travel abroad alone.
To be courted and be serenaded in front of the house just like in the province. (dreamy ,right?)
To be married to the man of my dreams.
So where’s the family there? They’re included in my first 8. Let me explain. Just last week my younger brother gave me the bag of my dreams. It was a dream come true since I haven’t owned a Jansport bag ever and I really feel sad every time I see a Jansport bag especially in grade school because my parents won’t let me buy for the reason that it might get stolen in school. I really felt happy when my lil bro saved enough money just to buy me one. He showed me that it is possible to save. I will treasure my bag forever because my bother sacrificed his lunch money just for me. It’s a reminder of how much he loves me with that simple act. I already have a laptop but this signifies my seriousness in my academics. I swear I will finish on time or earlier without any distractions. I do want a professional camera. It signifies my love for art. I want to graduate with a balanced life of academics and fun too! My diploma will be a proof of my hard work and dedication by concentrating in my studies. My mom gave her car to me just last month but I do want my own car, a car from my own money. This will signify that I have reached my dream because of studying hard. Passing the bar and being in a law firm will be the peak of my career. Reaching that stage will be the happiest moment of my academic life. I already have my own condo but I placed it here because apart from the condo I want to give my lil brother his own house and a vacation house for my parents too. Then after everything has been settled I would like to experience how it feels like to be an independent woman. After 1-2 years it would be the time of thinking of settling down. I would be 27-28 by that time. I based it in the novel “I Walk to Remember” and reflected about time. All this may look like corny and mushy at first but in the long run, these things may be significant. Time is too short, I rather spend every minute of it for the future and for my family. At least, I’m sure that I spent my time wisely and I won’t regret anything in my life. I did not indicate my plans after 10 years because it’s really hard to imagine about career, family and stuff at this age. Next time nalang.. After 20 years siguro..bye!!
posted by "hean" at 1/05/2008 08:18:00 PM
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